We Can Live without Men, We Have Allah

Getting divorced is not everyone's dream I think. Everyone especially woman wants to get married and live happily ever after like in a fairytale. However we live in a real world controlled by God. We still have power to change what we should have but again God's power is stronger, so we must accept what He has determined to us and be sure it's the best for us.

Talking about divorce. Do you know the meaning?
Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties (unlike annulment, which declares the marriage null and void). (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce)

I make it short, divorce means you end your marriage relationship with your spouse. Recently, numbers of divorce in Indonesia specially in west Java is increasing and most of the plaintiffs are wives. The fact is miserable and what makes me more sad is I was one of defendants in divorce trial. But it was about a year ago. Now I'm a new one and I enjoy my freedom.

Luckily I'm a divorcée without any children, I feel like I'm a single woman never married before. But my past will rest always in a place inside my self. However I must move on, my life must go on and try to search new love. I tried but I met bad guys who played me. I really hated those guys. They thought as divorcée I would be easy to be seduced and easy to fall in love with them. Damn! You're wrong guys. I have my self-esteem. I can earn money and fund my self even without a man.

I wanna tell you ladies, who are widows, divorces, single mothers. We don't have a husband but it doesn't mean we're weak. We still have power to live. Don't let any men seduce you easily and play you as their toys.

Some women need men for funding their lives. I understand that problem. But don't promote your self as you're a discount item. You're still a great flower ladies. Just the best man for you. As we know Mother Khadijah, who was a divorcee. She still kept herself well and finally she got the best man in the world that's Rasulullah Saw. Masha Allah.

Don't worry about not getting a spouse quickly after your last spouse's gone. Allah will change a better man, just be sure, as Ummu Salamah (one of Prophet Muhammad's wives). After his previous husband passed away (Abu Salamah), she felt sad and worried, she prayed to Allah in order He can change what had gone from her, but she thought no other man would change his previous husband. Finally, prophet Muhammad proposed her as his wife and Rasulullah is better than his previous husband.

So ladies, if you want to have a better husband than your last one, please be a nice woman. Always remember and close to Allah. Be an independent woman, who can earn money even though it's just for your daily needs. Don't let your self down. You're too precious to be with bad guys. Be careful with them. They're around you. They're cunning. But don't worry Allah will always be with you.